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self-love (noun): regard for one's own well-being and happiness

Self-love is a concept that I consider to be one of the most difficult to understand in life, which is a little ironic if you think about it. I think one reason why it's so hard to grasp is that there's a fine line between self-love and narcissism. Narcissism is defined in the dictionary as excessive interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. So really, how much can you love yourself in that it's socially acceptable? I want to encourage me and you to embrace our insecurities and realize that what others think shouldn't bother us at all. Here are my two cents on how and why you should love yourself on a daily basis.


To love yourself, give. Giving is good for the soul. I guarantee that the happiness others show when receiving your gift will most definitely bring you the same happiness. A gift can be anything—from a care package for a sick friend to a listening ear for someone with a heavy heart, any time or effort you put into serving others will bring you satisfaction and joy. The reward might not be immediate. But, the patience you learn is worthwhile, and giving to others will help you see yourself in a more positive light. One caveat: give out of the true goodness of your heart. Don't give with the wrong motives.


Be thankful for what you have. Appreciate the little things—the fact that you're inside a cozy building when it's blistering cold outside, that you can watch the sun set against such beautiful colors of the sky, that you have access to technology and running water and textbooks. I know I sound preachy, but realizing every small blessing you've been provided really helps you in understanding just how great of a life you're living and how important it is to be grateful every day. Self-love is inevitable when your heart is filled with thankfulness and contentment.


Push away those insecurities and come to terms with your uniqueness. We are all so different from one another. Stop admiring what others have and start embracing your own talents and assets. For a first, appearance isn't everything. He's tall and you're not—so what? Can he sing like you do? Can he speak three different languages like you do? Her skin is perfectly clear, yours isn't—don't let that faze you. You have the most amazing personality and that is going to bring you to so many good people and opportunities. Stop comparing, and start accepting.

Make use of your strengths. Show the world your beautiful doodles and paintings, share with your teachers your jaw-dropping memorization skills. No matter how cliché this seems, I always like to think that we all have a purpose and everything happens for a reason. Don't be bitter about what you don't have; take advantage of what you do have.


Be open. Be inspired. Don't be offended by criticism. Instead, figure out how you can shape yourself into a better person by tackling those mistakes and fixing those wrongs. Stay motivated, set goals, and compliment yourself along the way. Don't make your goals too far-fetched—make them feasible, so that you can actually attain them and feel great about it. A simple goal can be to drink eight cups of water in one day (which is absolutely wonderful for your body), or to finish reading a novel by the end of the week. Purposely create situations that will guide you towards satisfaction and fulfillment in yourself.


Spend quality "me" time. Take a jog around the neighborhood or watch a couple Netflix shows in bed. Belch out your favorite song in the shower or dance your head off on the couch. Refuel your energy and your mind before stepping out into the world to interact with others once more. Start a journal, in which you can scribble down your thoughts and emotions of the day. Don't keep everything inside and let off some steam. Having time alone is crucial in developing self-love.

I want my blog to be a happy place for my readers—a source of positivity and healing, where we're all smiles. I don't know where my blog is going to be in ten years, or even a month. But I know for a fact that you are very important, so you should close your laptop right now and go reward yourself with some ice cream. :)

*pat on the back*
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